Announcement

My Poor Neglected Website

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I’m doing some thinking about what I’m going to do with this site and whether or not to keep it active. I have an active TikTok and Twitter and semi-active Facebook, and a decent archive on YouTube. I have a Patreon with a handful of Patrons. I’m thinking of making this feed the “home” for all of that, but that involves stepping away from the immediacy of social media to set up articles and links and all that. I’ll let you know what I decide.

Setting Boundaries

Overwhelmed and Exhausted by Trump Stress? What Now?

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Four Years of Trump Stress Trump stress means that for the last four years, the Trump presidency has been the direct cause of untold manhours of productivity, creativity, and general function for people in the United States and in the rest of the world. I’m sure someone will take the time to quantify it at some point, but I’m not the one. I’m just introducing you to the concept. As I am writing this, Joe Biden and Kamala Harris have won the electoral college conclusively. Yet Trump and supporters around the country are continuing to threaten and harass and refuse …

Announcement

Post COVID19 Changes to Out Of My Mind, Etc.

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This year has been something. I’m working at home and completely rearranging my house and routine. I let Out of My Mind sit dormant while the world spun. Now that I’m settled in at home, I’m making (more) post COVID19 changes. It’s important to define a website’s focus narrowly. I haven’t done that enough with Out of My Mind. Because of my age and because my research shows that we will be making post COVID19 changes in the US for a very long time, I’m building my plans around the assumption that things won’t be “back to normal” for a long time.  …

Stuff and Nonsense

Brand New Look!

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Updated fonts, updated color scheme, and when you look at the menu, at the very end you will find “Memes for Sharing”. Every picture I have used that has a message rather than a title can be found there. I chose to make them a slideshow so that you can see them better. Please don’t crop out the attribution, and please don’t change them in such a way as to change the message. Enjoy!

Stuff and Nonsense

Font Experiments

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Over the next several days I will be experimenting with a new title font and possibly with new body fonts. I got some feedback that the Google Permanent Marker font I’ve been using as a title font is hard to read for some people. I’ve downloaded a few new fonts and will play with them. If you see one you like, let me know. 

Mental Health, Politics

Why Is the “Rule of Law” Important to My Mental Health?

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what is the rule of law and why does it matter?  The rule of law is: “a situation in which the laws of a country are obeyed by everyone The courts uphold the rule of law.” In a country that follows the rule of law, the laws and penalties are the same for everyone. Under that definition, there isn’t a country in the world that is entirely following the rule of law. A lot of countries, maybe even most, believe in it and work towards it, however, and that is important. When people are able to go around the law if they are rich …

Announcement

Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

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Why Such a long time away? There have been some changes in my life. I took a long vacation from writing after a medical event in July that affected my entire body. My doctor put it down to a virus, but it was unlike any virus I’d ever experienced before. That event scared me and made me work hard to take care of myself, so I retreated for a while and then slowly worked my way back.  I am finishing up some changes to the places and ways I distribute information right now. I will continue to use YouTube for …

Mental Health

Ousting the Secret-Teller: Why the Person Who Reports the Abuse Gets Banished

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On how the secret-teller who reveals abuse gets pushed or urged out of a group, and how to protect yourself as this happens.  Ousting the Secret-Teller: Why the Person Who Reports the Abuse Gets Banished If you have been abused by a family member, a friend in your close friendship group, a leader or member in your religious group, or a boss or co-worker in a workplace, you have probably experienced the pain of attempting tell or warn others in the group about the behavior of your abuser, only to have the group ice you out, tell you confidently that …

Mental Health

What Happens When You’re Hotlined For Child Abuse?

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What Happens When You’re Hotlined for Child Abuse? This article applies to the United States, as I don’t know the laws and procedures in other countries.  Hotlines for child abuse or neglect feel horrible and terrifying. I know this as a therapist and as a mother. My oldest son “failed to thrive” so his doctor hotlined a couple of times thinking I wasn’t feeding him. Further, his father thought it was great fun to hotline me every time we had a disagreement over parenting. Before long I knew the routine in my sleep. “Yes, come right in.” “Sure, look in …