Brand New Look!

Updated fonts, updated color scheme, and when you look at the menu, at the very end you will find “Memes for Sharing”. Every picture I have used that has a message rather than a title can be found there. I chose to make them a slideshow so that you can see them better. Please don’t crop out the attribution, and please don’t change them in such a way as to change the message. Enjoy!

Font Experiments

Over the next several days I will be experimenting with a new title font and possibly with new body fonts. I got some feedback that the Google Permanent Marker font I’ve been using as a title font is hard to read for some people. I’ve downloaded a few new fonts and will play with them. If you see one you like, let me know. 

Why Is the “Rule of Law” Important to My Mental Health?

what is the rule of law and why does it matter?  The rule of law is: “a situation in which the laws of a country are obeyed by everyone The courts uphold the rule of law.” In a country that follows the rule of law, the laws and penalties are the same for everyone. Under that definition, there isn’t a country in the world that is entirely following the rule of law. A lot of countries, maybe even most, believe in it and work towards it, however, and that is important. When people are able to go around the law if they are rich …

Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

Why Such a long time away? There have been some changes in my life. I took a long vacation from writing after a medical event in July that affected my entire body. My doctor put it down to a virus, but it was unlike any virus I’d ever experienced before. That event scared me and made me work hard to take care of myself, so I retreated for a while and then slowly worked my way back.  I am finishing up some changes to the places and ways I distribute information right now. I will continue to use YouTube for …

Ousting the Secret-Teller: Why the Person Who Reports the Abuse Gets Banished

On how the secret-teller who reveals abuse gets pushed or urged out of a group, and how to protect yourself as this happens.  Ousting the Secret-Teller: Why the Person Who Reports the Abuse Gets Banished If you have been abused by a family member, a friend in your close friendship group, a leader or member in your religious group, or a boss or co-worker in a workplace, you have probably experienced the pain of attempting tell or warn others in the group about the behavior of your abuser, only to have the group ice you out, tell you confidently that …

What Happens When You’re Hotlined For Child Abuse?

What Happens When You’re Hotlined for Child Abuse? This article applies to the United States, as I don’t know the laws and procedures in other countries.  Hotlines for child abuse or neglect feel horrible and terrifying. I know this as a therapist and as a mother. My oldest son “failed to thrive” so his doctor hotlined a couple of times thinking I wasn’t feeding him. Further, his father thought it was great fun to hotline me every time we had a disagreement over parenting. Before long I knew the routine in my sleep. “Yes, come right in.” “Sure, look in …

Publishing Schedule Thoughts While Attempting to Model Self-Care

What About the Publishing Schedule? Just a heads up about my publishing schedule. I am currently on a  short involuntary video hiatus because my phone stopped working for making videos. While I’m waiting for my new phone to arrive and be activated, I decided to ease off on finishing articles as well for a few days. I’ll be getting a bunch of nifty accessories with it. So I got thinking about working full time and how much I can do consistently.  Part of what I do is to attempt to model the behavior I want to see. I want to …

WHAT Skills Core Mindfulness from DBT: Observe, Describe, Participate

From DBT: “What” Mindfulness Skills? This article includes information from DBT Skills Training Manual 2nd Edition pages 153-154 by Marsha Linehan, PhD. The “what” mindfulness skills are the three core mindfulness skills from DBT that help you with what to do when your mind is out of control. They help you to be skillful enough to be productive or to stop being destructive. Do You Mind? Tackling the Thing.

How the “Wellness” Industry Promotes Eating Disorders

I’m about to tell you a personal story about eating disorders I woke up this morning to this headline from the New York Times: “Smash the Wellness Industry: Why are so many smart women falling for its harmful, pseudoscientific claims?” , which discusses the author’s own struggle with eating disorders. Because the Times is behind a paywall, I’ll summarize. The author, a novelist named Jessica Knoll,  spent most of her adult life going on one diet after another, following the advice of dieticians,  doctors, and whatever fad of the week diet was being promoted. It wasn’t until she found a …