In case you were wondering what “enthusiastic consent” looks like.
What enthusiastic consent looks like:
In a minute.
Like this? Or this?
Both, and neither. Like this. Like this?
Oh yes? And is this the way, or this?
Oh, this. Oh, THIS!
More? or Less?
More! oh, oh. Oops. I meant less.
My turn? Please?
Of course. Mouth or hands?
I like both. Mouth first, I think. Yes.
(Giggles) Yes. And back at you.
Phew! A break?
Sure. Cuddle? Sleep? Or something else.
Ice cream? For eat or play?
Eat today, play later.
(Sighs) It’s good.
Yes, it’s good. Thank you.
A Note on Enthusiastic Consent
The notion that all interactions between two people should be, when possible, based on enthusiastic consent is based on several premises:
- Every person is the sole owner of their own body and own experience.
- Interactions between adults are by definition interactions between equals.
- If someone is unable to consent (due to impairment or age) there is no consent even if there is enthusiasm.
- Consent doesn’t just apply to sexual interactions. It applies to all touch, and to many discussions and interactions people have.
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