Microfiction: Enthusiastic Consent

In case you were wondering what “enthusiastic consent” looks like. What enthusiastic consent looks like: Ready? In a minute. Yet? Not quite. Yet? Yes! Like this? Or this? Both, and neither. Like this. Like this? Oh yes? And is this the way, or this? Oh, this. Oh, THIS! More? or Less? More! oh, oh. Oops. I meant less. My turn? Please? Of course. Mouth or hands? I like both. Mouth first, I think. Yes. Mmmmph? (Giggles) Yes. And back at you. Mmmmph! Mmmmph! Phew! A break? Sure. Cuddle? Sleep? Or something else. Ice cream. Ice cream? For eat or play? …

On Boundaries: Scripts for Setting Your Material Boundaries

Boundaries: Four Levels and Four Circumstances In the article I published earlier this week on physical boundaries, I went into great detail about the four levels (avoid, ask, tell, and demand) and four circumstances (public, work, and school, friends and family, and intimate relationships) in which we set boundaries. You can read that post here.  What Are Material Boundaries? Material boundaries are the boundaries you set when you invest in other people. Breaking that down a bit further, material boundaries are set when you decide whether or not to lend or give something to someone. The primary currencies involve time, …