Patreon Membership Tier Updates

Today I totally revamped my Patreon membership tiers from top to bottom. In short: I  release all videos, audio files, and articles to the public after a one-week Patron-exclusive period. Also, I encourage Patrons and non-Patrons to join the Out Of My Mind Facebook group. The group provides a moderated space to safely discuss the issues with living with mental health challenges in an unjust world.  Patrons at the $1 level and above will get same-day access to videos, audio, and articles. I will also credit all Patrons in the closing credits of all full-length videos and on the website.  …

Chain of Events: How DBT’s Behavioral Chain Analysis Can Help YOU

How to Do a Behavioral Chain Analysis (The Simple Version) Reminder: A Behavioral Chain Analysis should be done in between crises when you are relatively calm and relax. Each part should be completed in excruciating detail. Lots and lots and lots and lots of detail.

Executive Function, Parenting, and Your Kid’s Messy Room

“Your Kid’s Messy Room” is part of the Executive Function Series of Videos and the first of the series that deals with parenting implications.   Your goal is to make cleaning a room a task that a child understands and can generally do and to make it far less stressful for both of you. Having a backup adult (like another parent or friend) is useful for this only if they understand the goal.  For review, go to Part 1, Part 2, and Part 3. Also, you can use the advice on helping your child with their messy room for other things …

Marry, Shag, Kill: A Relationship Metaphor

What is Marry, Shag, Kill, Anyhow? Known under several names, including “Marry, F*ck, Kill”, “Marry, Snog, Kill”, and “Marry, Kiss, Kill”, it is a game meant to rate the relative attractiveness and/or suitability of celebrities or fictional characters. Usually, one person will list three characters (say, Harry Potter, Hermione, and Ron Weasley). You would “force” choose which one you would “marry”, which you would “shag”, and which you would “kill” (or get rid of).

Executive Function Pt. 3: Forming Habits

Executive Function Pt. 3: Forming Habits For part 1 go here and part 2 go here. Now we move on to forming habits. Toward the end of this article will be links to this information in other forms.  The Parts of YOur Brain Involved in Forming habits When you form a habit, you move information from your pre-frontal cortex to other parts of your brain, especially your basal ganglia. Your pre-frontal cortex is the newest part of your brain, genetically. It is also the most vulnerable to stress and other issues. Because of this, it is important, whenever we can, …

Executive Function Part 2: Hacks and Workarounds

You have waited long enough. Part 1 covered definitions and causes of issues with executive function. Without further ado, here’s executive function part 2:  Executive Function Part 2: Hacks and Workarounds   I hesitated to use “hacks” here because I don’t want you to think I’m not taking executive function dysfunction lightly.  Finally decided that it was a short and plain way to say “stuff that works” and decided to keep it.  If you’ve been following along with this series, you know that I am relying heavily on the research of Adele Diamond to bring these ideas to you. All …

4 Ways To Handle Any Problem Pt 2: Community And Society

4 Ways To Handle Any Problem Pt 2 As promised, this is 4 Ways To Handle Any Problem Pt 2. The first half is here. The concept is taken from the orientation to DBT therapy from Marsha Linehan, Ph.D., and consists of four basic points:  Solve the problem Feel better about the problem Tolerate the problem Stay miserable One of the reasons I like this framing of the issue is that by identifying “stay miserable” as a decision instead of something that just happens, it allows you to consciously choose or reject it, and even use it strategically as part …